A guilty pleasure for me was the fun, wildy revealing reality show, True Beauty. The show showcases an outer beauty challenge such as a photo shoot, or fashion show and secretly records the models for an unbeknownst to them inner beauty challenge as well. These are challenges that measure psychological factors such as honesty, compassion, integrity and kindness.
So what really is true beauty? And how is it measured? While there is some science behind what is widely thought of as beautiful, beauty is actually a subjective experience- hence the term of “beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” It’s a gentle balance of harmony, nature and what makes us feel. Most of us are familiar with the beautiful person who skates through life with everything supposedly handed to them and the confidence they have that makes us envy them: when usually the truth is somewhere in the middle. And we all know the beautiful person who acts so ugly it erodes their beauty like a rusty nail. And my favorite- the at first glance, not as attractive person whose soul just shines through their skin and with every kind word or good deed becomes more and more beautiful.
So whether or not we were born with that perfect face, we all have the potential to become beautiful people. As a “personal artist”, my goal in life is to help others reach that potential. It is my job to turn your beauty inside out. Our inner traits do show on our outer being. I recommend searching your soul and bringing those traits to light. What I mean is, if you are witty and full of expression, wax those eyebrows to give them a shape that allows your expression to be seen. Or maybe we tend to laugh a lot with an open mouth, keep those teeth whitened and maybe kissed with a little gloss so that your laugh becomes even more infectious. Maybe you are always a little flustered, or blushing. Try and make it part of who you are instead of being embarrassed. Invest in a medium toned powder and learn to use bronzer so you always have the look that you are a beautiful cherub. Trying to hide that can make you look silly, so work with it! If you’re the type of person who loves to use their eyes, to look deeply in to people, or to flirt or smile with, definitely play them up. Decorate your flirt with eyeliner, full lashes and shimmer powder. Laughlines are a very endearing trait. They are the sign of a happy person so don’t try and kill them with fillers until you’re older. Use great nightcreme and go to sleep with the knowledge that no one can see your laughlines while your smiling. I have no qualms with plastic surgery, I feel its our right to change our bodies but keep in mind you don’t want to erase what makes you you. I am saddened when I see my clients take the light out of their faces, so fill in your face slowly and gently so that your inner beauty continues to have a way to express itself. We can work on our bodies, work on our minds and even work on our souls. But unfortunately our soul isn’t showing so we must use our bodies as a vehicle. So, look in the mirror- or ask a family member – to find what makes you YOU? Is it your quirkiness, goofiness, sensitivity, or sarcasm? What trait expresses its self the most? Find a make up artist and ask them the best way to bring out that feature, for men, use your facial hair or hairstyle. How do you see yourself in your dreams? You deserve to let that show. Maybe find a dermatologist for your skin, a dentist so that you may smile or even a personal trainer so you can remove parts of you that keep you inhibited. We all deserve to shine and be perceived as beautiful. And remember, it doesn’t matter what you look like while you are volunteering at a homeless shelter, helping someone rebuild after a storm or working in a hospice. It just helps us feel more whole and when we are more whole we spend less time searching for our other parts, and we can begin to help others find theirs. And that, to me, is true beauty.
